In November 2022, a Reddit user shared a troubling story on the “Off My Chest” forum. The OP had been in a relationship with her fiancé, Ryan, for six years and they had been engaged for eight months.
As the wedding planning progressed, Ryan suggested that she should not wear a white dress. This proposal puzzled the anonymous poster, but she initially brushed it off, thinking it was related to Ryan’s artistic nature.
However, things took a turn when the woman finally bought her white wedding dress two weeks before the big day. Ryan became visibly irritated and insisted on seeing the dress, but she wanted to maintain the surprise. When she revealed that it was white, Ryan reacted explosively, expressing a strong preference for red. He believed that brides should only wear white if they were “pure.” This shocking revelation left the woman questioning their future together.
To try and change her mind, Ryan sought support from his mother, but even she agreed with the woman. The arguments about the symbolism tied to the wedding dress intensified, with even Ryan’s mother suggesting that he should also wear red since he was no longer a virgin. The confrontation left Ryan in tears, but he remained firm in his belief that wearing white would deceive their wedding guests.
The whole ordeal shattered the woman’s faith in her relationship with Ryan. She was disgusted by his actions and seriously reconsidered their future together. What puzzled her even more was Ryan’s fixation on her past, particularly her loss of virginity before they had met. This revelation weighed heavily on her, and she sought understanding from anyone willing to listen.
In a later update, the woman found herself facing her first date in six years after breaking off her engagement. She sought advice on what attire would be appropriate. Commenters suggested she wear red.